Tiniest bride has her dream wedding with her over 6ft tall groom

31 year old Amanda Fyfe had been born with Osteogenesis Imperfecta, a severe form of brittle bone disease, that stunted her growth at 2ft 8in.
Doctors even warned her devastated parents Geoff and Diana Moore that she was unlikely to live through the night after she was born. So getting married and having children were never really on Amanda’s radar.

Until she met 6ft 1in Steven who is 25 years old. She had never dared dream of saying “I do” in a church full of family and friends, but as her new husband carried her onto the dancefloor for their first dance, she realised she had finally found her happy ever after.

And, as he carried her on to the dancefloor to their favourite song – Heaven by DJ Sammy – Amanda realised her condition made her no different to any other happy bride on their big day.

She said:“It sounds cheesy but I really have found Heaven with Steven.

“When I was younger, I was so scared I wouldn’t be able to find a boyfriend because of my size. "But all my dreams have come true and I’ve met the perfect man. He’s never cared about my height and loves me the way I am.”

Although she was unable to stand on her big day it was proud dad Geoff who walked alongside her as she made her way down the aisle in her wheelchair to marry Steven.

Geoff said: “I’m very proud of what she has achieved. When I saw her looking amazing in her wedding dress, I was overwhelmed. It was one of the proudest moments of my life.”

The couple first met in 2007 when they worked for a taxi firm, but they did not date for two years.

Amanda said:

“At first, he irritated me. He was really sarcastic and always making silly jokes. But I warmed to him and we eventually agreed to go out. “I invited him round to mine. I didn’t want to go to the pub and have everyone staring at us because he was so much taller.

“First dates are stressful enough.

“I’d had a few relationships, but when I was younger I’d worried that I wouldn’t find a long-term partner as I looked different from all of my friends.

“We watched a film but he was quite shy and didn’t kiss me. I had to make the first move the next time we met up. "I joke that if I hadn’t, we still wouldn’t have got together as he’s so laid back. “We then started going out for dinner and going to pubs and clubs after we’d had a few dates at home. Some people looked at us, but we just ignored them.

“His mum was actually my boss at the taxi firm where we worked so I was a bit scared of what she would say when we got together. But she was really nice.

“I made Steven wait four weeks before we slept together. I was nervous, but he made me feel really at ease and comfortable and it was great.”

Amanda added:

“Steven and I are just like any other couple. We have a good sex life and I feel more relaxed with him than with previous boyfriends.

“Although my bones break easily, it’s not dangerous. He makes me feel really comfortable and he’s gentle.”

Three months later, Amanda who had been told she would never have children, was shocked to find out she was pregnant.
She said: “It occurred to me to take a pregnancy test. I had always been told it wasn’t possible for me to have children, so when I saw that it was positive I was in floods 
of tears.

“When I discovered I was expecting Aidan, I was in total shock. "I worried Steven would run a mile as he was only 18 and we hadn’t been together long but he really stepped up to the plate. That’s when I knew he was The One.”

Aidan, now six, is already taller than mum at 3ft 2in and acted as ring bearer as well as page boy and at the couple’s church wedding in Oakham, Rutland, in July.

In May 2012, Steven, who now works in purchasing for a plastics factory, proposed over a romantic dinner at home.

“At first, I thought he was joking but then I said yes straight away,” Amanda said. “He didn’t buy me a ring as he knew anything he chose would be too big for me. We went shopping soon afterwards and picked out a ring with a solitaire diamond specially resized.”

After setting a date Amanda asked sister and bridesmaid, Amy Rowan, 34, to help her choose her wedding dress.
She said:

“I tried lots of dresses and most looked ridiculous. Some of the bodices were so big, you couldn’t see my head.

“But then I picked out a gorgeous, strapless ivory gown and I fell in love with it. It was huge but the sales assistant said I could have it altered and the train cut off. “I don’t get teary often, but I had a lump in my throat when I looked in the mirror. It was a moment I never thought I’d see.

It was a big moment for my dad,” “He’d been told I wouldn’t live more than a few hours and now I’ve given him a grandson and he’s got to walk with me down the aisle.”

However, the day was tinged with sadness due to the absence of Amanda’s mother, Diana, who died from kidney failure in 2009.
Amanda said:

“I’m not emotional, but I broke down a few days before the wedding because it was so hard to accept my mum wouldn’t be there. "She would have been so proud. “She was my rock and best friend. Thanks to her, I had a happy childhood and was able to take my health problems in my stride. She always told me I was beautiful.

“In the end, I had a brooch made with her picture on it and my dad sat it next to him during the ceremony.

“When we were driving to the church in the wedding car no one could see me through the window as I’m so small. "My dad joked that people would think the bride had gone missing.”

Steven, 25, admits that he was blown away when he saw his new wife.

“Amanda looked beautiful. It was a magical day. The height difference has never been an issue to me and I’ve always said Amanda is out of my league. “When we’re out together I joke people must be wondering how I managed to pull someone as gorgeous as her.

“I love her eyes and her smile but she’s beautiful on the inside, too. Amanda has always made me laugh.

"She’s got a great sense of humour and that’s the first thing I noticed about her – not her height. “I was only 16 when we first met at work and I remember her having this really infectious laugh.

"Even though she’s small, she’s got such a presence when she comes into a room.”

Now the couple are looking to the future, and won’t rule out more children.
Amanda said:

“My health has been good over the past few years. I haven’t had a broken bone for nearly four years. "But it might be a bit risky to go through another pregnancy, though, especially as we have Aidan to consider.

“I loved being pregnant but I had to be monitored constantly and I couldn’t give birth naturally as my body would have been too small to cope with labour.”

She added:

“We’re looking at other options and we’re considering adoption, as we’d love to give Aidan a brother or a sister. We have so much love to give as a family.

“Aidan takes everything in his stride. When he was a bit younger, he would ask me why people were staring at us all the time. “Apart from the fact that I’m a bit smaller than most mums, we are just a totally normal family.” 

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Reality star Snooki weds (photos)

Former Jersey Shore star ,Nicole "Snooki" Polizzi married her longtime boyfriend and father of her two children (Lorenzo, 2, and Giovanna, 3 months), Jionni LaValle on Saturday November 29th at Saint Rose of Lima Church in East Hanover, New Jersey. See more photos after the cut...

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So Romantic! P square Paul Okoye and wifey, Anita go mani-pedi

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I Haven’t Slept With Any Other Woman Since My Marriage In 2007- Kenneth Okonkwo

Actor Kenneth Okonkwo in a new interview with City People has said he is a faithful man. According to him ever since he got married 7 years ago, he is yet to see another woman’s pant. Nice!

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No Man Has Asked For My Hand In Marriage- Bianca Ojukwu

Bianca Ojukwu, the widow of late former Biafran leader, Dim Chukwuemeka Odumegwu Ojukwu, and Nigeria Ambassador to Spain has said no man has asked for her hand in marriage ever since she lost her husband. Plus most importantly she has no compelling need to re-marry. Here’s what she told Vanguard in an interview.

Given that you are still very young, beautiful and as the famed American poet-Robert Frost said, you still have a long road to travel. Do you plan to remarry?

People marry I think not just because they need to come together, live together, raise family together, it is a rite of passage and I think I have fulfilled my part. Why I said that, is, I have gone through marriage, lived with what I consider a wonderful man who gave me 23 years of happiness, of fulfillment,  I literally felt I was the luckiest woman to have had a man who gave me utter dedication and, above all, wonderful children. So my pledge to him is that I will devote my life to taking care of our children, raising them properly, teaching them those ideals that he cherished and held very dear and trying to carry on his legacy. So I don’t have any compelling need to remarry and, in any case, my time is very limited; so I am trying to channel it properly towards raising my children.

How do you contain advances from men, who may nurse some romantic thoughts about you?

Nigerian men are not aggressive; they may be aggressive in business, in their career pursuits, but in that particular area of aggressively pursuing a romantic interest, I have been very impressed by the level of decency and decorum they project. I mean, it might be just my own experience. They have treated me with a lot of respect, deference-they have been protective in a way as if to say this is a treasure that we must protect. I get on flights, and I see people stand up, take my luggage to my car, they have been amazing. I haven’t encountered that sort of pursuit and I have been very touched and humbled by the way they have treated me.

My husband’s friends call me regularly to see how I am doing- I mean a lot of widows complain that that they have issues with people proposing to them. But in my own case, I must say that I have been lucky to have wonderful support system based on respect and a sense of protection. If that is a function of the respect they had for my husband, I don’t know.

When I travel abroad, I also meet Nigerian men who are respectful. I also believe that it also depends on the woman’s attitude-sometimes we lay blame at the doorstep of the men— but the fact is that if you are engaged in your work, if you are a woman who have a sense of purpose, regardless of the fact that you operate in a terrain that is dominated by men, once you can hold your own, it will be difficult to fall into that quagmire where you feel you are being propositioned or your gender is playing a derogatory role.

Once you are not making excuses for bad performance, or once you are not looking for a man to cover for you, for your inadequacies, once you are able to let you work speak for you, it’s a lot easier to survive and live a life of dignity, and once you don’t present yourself as a weak and defenseless woman- one to be pitied and really cuddled by a man just by a virtue of being of a weaker s*x – then it’s much easier to live a life that is not being truncated  by those pressures.

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This 75-yr-old Man impregnates 13-yr old girl in Oyo, says he's ready to marry her(See Photo)

Too Bad! 75 year old Pa Muse Alabi is  currently at the State Criminal Investigation Department of the Oyo State Police Command, for defilement of a 13-year-old girl (name withheld) allegedly committed by the old man, and which has resulted in pregnancy.

Crime Reports learnt that Pa Alabi was doing carpentry work for a lady under whom the victim was an apprentice. The young girl seized the opportunity to tell Pa Alabi to build a safe for her. After giving her the safe, Pa Alabi wooed the girl and she agreed to his proposal. After the first sexual intercourse they had, it was learnt that the suspect gave the girl N200. When she also demanded for a handset, he gave her N1,500 to buy i-tel phone.

Four days after, they made love again. Both times were in September this year.In an interview with Crime Reports, Pa Alabi admitted having sex with the girl and the paternity of the baby. He also agreed to marry her and take care of her and the baby when born. According to the man who lives at his family house at Oje area,
“I am a carpenter and I still work till the present time. I even take roofing jobs. I am very strong.I have two daughters and a son. My first wife gave birth to the female children but had to be taken away by her people when she developed mental illness. My second wife is the mother of the boy who is an SSS3 student but she has left for another man. Currently, I have no wife.” 
 So how does he satisfy his sexual needs when it looks as if he is very active?
“I don’t go looking for any woman. I usually have sex with any of the married women who like me and come to me for sex. This is not always though.”
 Speaking on how he came in contact with his victim, the elderly man said
: “I used to do carpentry work for her boss who sells tailoring materials. That was where I knew her. One day, she asked me to help her build a safe in which she could be keeping her money. When I finished it, I asked her to come to my shop for the safe late one evening and I gave it to her.
“She used to pass by my shop whenever she was going home and used to stop by to greet me. On a particular day, I expressed my interest in her and she promised to think about it.She later consented and on one of the days she stopped to say hello to me, we had sex when I had an urge. And it was mutual. About five days after the first time, we had sex again and she stopped coming.
“One day, she came to me and told me that her grandmother said she was pregnant. She stopped coming again and I didn’t see her again until policemen came to arrest me.”
When asked whether he knew that his action was in contravention of the law, Pa Muse replied that he didn’t know, describing the outcome of his relationship with the young girl as “an act of God”. He said:
 “Mistake has no master. I pray that God should forgive me.”
The suspect said he doesn’t use any sex performance enhancement drug before making love to a female
 “I don’t take any herbal drink for enhancement of sexual performance. They are alcoholic and I don’t take alcohol as a good Muslim. I observe my five-times-daily prayers faithfully.”
Pa Alabi said he was ready to take responsibility over the pregnant girl and the baby she is expecting.
 “I can take care of her adequately. I have a nephew who is a medical doctor and he has promised to help too,” he stated.
The Police Public Relations Officer, Olabisi Okuwobi-Ilobanafor however said that the suspect would be charged to court.

Source: tribune.com

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"How Beyonce Saved Solange on her Wedding Day" - Tina Knowles (VIDEO)

It was a wedding that broke the internet, one of the weddings of the year, one of the most photographed, but behind the scenes, it was a wedding that was nearly ruined when the beautiful bride, 28 year old Solange Knowles broke out in painful hives. And her mum, Tina Knowles has spilled the wedding day secrets.

Sitting down with Entertainment Tonight, Tina explained what really happened:

 'I just think the wedding epitomized Solange as a person, and her and Alan's artistic flare. Of course, like all weddings not everything went to plan, and Solange's big day was almost ruined when she broke out in painful welts between the ceremony and the

reception.

 Luckily Beyonce was there, her mother said.

'Solange went through the wedding and the sit down dinner and she was just fine. And then they had a second line in the streets of New Orleans and she was dancing so hard, I think she just go overheated. And the seafood, I think she had a reaction to it. So her face broke out in these welts.'

And then enters Beyonce and a whole lot of Benadryl.

'Beyonce took her back to the hotel and gave her Benadryl. And in two hours, she showed up at the reception and did the dance with her son and just danced all night and had a ball.'

 Solange was so thankful for getting back to the party, she even tweeted thanks to the allergy medication. She wrote:

'Shout out to Benadryl yo, lol. NOTHING was gonna stop me from having my mother and son dance with Julez. My baby killed it and will forever remain my favourite dance partner of all time. My heart will forever smile reliving the feeling our lil happy feet together.'

The dance with her 10-year-old son Daniel Julez Smith Jr. to No Flex Zone was one of the highlights of the evening. For Tina, another highlight was the vows her daughter and now son-in-law shared.
She continued:

'Oh my God the vows they were the most beautiful thing, there wasn't a dry eye on the place, they were just so heartfelt.'

While usually only the bride wears white, for this event every attendee dazzled in the colour.
And that was not the only unusual aspect of the wedding day, as Tina revealed despite the posed picture for Vogue there was no bridal party, the picture instead celebrated the women that had made an impact on Solange's life.

There was also another party that was strictly a child free zone and that included Beyonce's little Blue Ivy and Solange's son.

'[Blue] didn’t get to come to the after party. [Julez] only got to come and do the dance and then he had to leave. Had to go to bed. It was a grown folks party.'

But, if Tina has her way, next event will be packed with children. Speaking of Destiny's Child star Kelly Rowland's new baby boy, whom Tina counts as a grandchild as Kelly and Beyonce are so close, she said she is looking forward to more grandchildren soon.

'I got two boys and a girl. Couldn't ask for better than that [but] I'm always ready for more grandbabies.'

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Relationship 101: Kinds Of People You Must Never Marry

The easiest time to prevent a divorce or an unhappy marriage is before marriage, not after.
There is no gainsaying that love can have such a drunken effect on the about-to-wed that clear danger signals become unimportant to them, while hope becomes the only commodity. After all, is it not said that love conquers all? Great! But what type of love is meant there?
There are traits that some people cannot drop. It is like hoping that a right-handed spouse will one day become left-handed: a classical case of waiting for Godot!
If you are looking for a wife or a husband, please be wary of these groups of people.

Those who can never say, “sorry”
They would hurt you, annoy you, disappoint you, but would never apologise, because they believe that it would belittle and demean them. When you are wrong, you apologise to them, and when you are right, you still apologise to them, hoping that that they would change. But they never do. You start to feel irritated and agitated. The love and respect you felt for them start to wear away.

Those who can never say, “Thank you”
Whatever you do for them, they are never grateful. “Why should I say, ‘Thank you’ when you are just doing your duty?” Some would say that their gratitude is in their heart. Do you have to open a heart to see the gratitude and get it? Such an attitude causes irritation and frustration and unhappiness.
Such people also believe the world owes them a lot. They go around their activities with an entitlement mentality. They are difficult to please.

Those who have excessive libido or inadequate libido
Sexual intercourse is a very important factor in marriage, but when you have a spouse that needs it for breakfast, lunch and supper, it is difficult to have any peace in the family. Infidelity also knocks on door. On the other hand, when you have a spouse that hates sex or thinks that sex should only be had once a year during the wedding anniversary or birthday celebration, there is also trouble in the house, and infidelity is usually a challenge.

Men who think women are to be seen but not heard
Some men still live in the 18th century, in spite of the depth of education they profess. It is true that marriage is not a zone for feminist crusade, but if a man has archaic views about women, then, please avoid him like an Ebola patient. Watch out for statements like: “How can an ordinary woman want to be the CEO?” “How can a woman chat with men?”

Women who believe they don’t need men in their lives
Such women believe that they are self-sufficient in all things. They have the I-don’t-give-a-damn attitude. Men feel ill at ease when they are with women who don’t allow a room in their lives for a man to fill. Such women find it difficult to express love. They fly into quarrels easily. This creates frustration and conflicts.

Men who are looking for housemaids, not wives

These are men who still live in the 15th century. They have an archaic idea of what the role of wives is. They believe that women are only meant to cook, clean the house, bear children, and serve the men.

They believe that when the men talk, women must just obey. The man can keep mistresses, but the woman should keep quiet and not even be seen greeting a man. A woman should not work, should not step out of the house, and should not complain whatever the man doles out to her.

Those who can never trust anybody

These are those who believe that everybody is a dangerous enemy that has evil designs against them. They have an obsession with fear of people, including their spouse, that it is irritating. Once a spouse cannot be trusted, there can never be joy in the family.

Those who have no respect for others

People can mouth love, but without respect, a marriage can never be happy. Women who love to prove a point by insulting their husbands, or men who believe in treating their wives without dignity in the name of cutting their wives to size: such people make terrible marriage partners.

Women who see all men as competition that must not be given an inch

Marriage is not a place for activism. A woman who sees a man as a competitor rather than a complement is a dangerous person to marry. When a man has to contend with a woman every minute, when a man is always too conscious of what to say or do to his wife, then there is a problem.

Those who can’t control their temper

Hot-tempered people are dangerous. They can utter anything in anger. They can do things that they will regret for life. They can be violent. Their words can be venomous. They can put you in trouble.

Those who cannot forgive

Forgiveness makes us look superhuman. But there are those who cannot forgive, no matter the circumstances. Not only can they not forgive, they can also not forget. Because they can’t forgive, they usually think of how to get revenge.

Those who have not been weaned by their parents

Age has little to do with maturity in marriage. Those who have not been “weaned” by their parents make poor marriage partners. They are full of “Mummy said”, “Daddy said”. They take every family discussion to their parents. They cannot do anything unless their parents approve. They allow their parents to run their homes in the name of showing respect to the mother-in-law or father-in-law.

Those who are tied to the apron strings of their parents make marriage tasteless. Such spouses are as a constant source of frustration and sadness. You will always be wrong. You will always be vilified.

In summary, marriage is not a bed of roses. There is nobody without some faults or idiosyncrasies. But it is foolhardy to walk into a landmine with one’s eyes open, praying and hoping that the explosive would not go off.

To avoid heartache, neither blind love nor desperation to get a married should push a bachelor or spinster to jump into a marriage with someone that will cause nothing but pain, sadness, and sorrow.

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In truth, I think everyone has one or two of these tendencies, albeit not pronounced. The key is to strife to be better for ourselves and those we love character wise....or what do you think?

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10 Best Marriage Vows You Never Hear At Weddings!

Do you agree with this piece, guys? Continues after the cut.

Love is patient, love is kind, love endures, blah blah blah, isn't it all wonderful? Vowing to persevere through sickness and health and in wealth and poverty is tradition, and it's comfortable when associated with lace and roses. 

But hasn’t it proven to be fairly useless when it comes to forging marriages that last forever? How many people have mouthed the words, “until we are parted by death” while privately plotting to move on as soon as a more attractive option presents itself? 

Here's a set of wedding vows with practical merit. They might sound unconventional and unromantic. They’re certainly not poetic, but these promises, if kept, will go far in sealing a marriage for the ages.

• 1. I promise to clarify my expectations. 

A marriage ends because a spouse has failed to meet the expectations their partner brought to the marriage. Expectations are unique, and come packaged inside your fiance’s brain. You may think these things are obvious or universal, that “everyone knows” what makes a good husband, what makes a good wife. But the truth is: Your expectations are yours alone -- spawned from your experiences and locked in your head. 

There is nothing you can assume about your partner’s idea of what a good marriage looks like. No harm will come from being very specific and concrete about exactly what you want, not just in bed but in the bank account, at the dinner table, with regard to parenting, and everything else. If you’re too shy to mention what you believe is the right way to behave, and you’re hoping everything will become obvious as time goes on, you’re not ready to get married. Get it all in the open, and keep putting it out in the open. If someone fails you, they should have to do it by choice, and not have ignorance as an excuse.

• 2. I promise to give you the benefit of the doubt, when it comes to money. 

One of the biggest adjustments, when entering marriage, is joint finances. From being on your own and subject only to your own ups and downs, you’re now responsible for another person, or you’re depending on another person. That can be scary. 

Here’s a vow you can make that will help: If your spouse spends a lot of money on something, trust that they know what they’re doing. Trust them until it becomes impossible not to trust them. Don’t come out of the gate suspicious. 

Here’s why you can do this: You didn’t marry an idiot. Right? If you think they’re overspending this month, chances are they’re expecting a special check, or they’re compensating for underspending last month, or something else. This is not a fool; this is your spouse. Surrender the worry that they’re going to drive you into financial ruin. Give the benefit of the doubt. If they really do appear to be ruining you, then the last benefit of the doubt you can give is that they don’t know any better, and need help. Help kindly and respectfully, not with judgment and blame.

• 3. I promise to make sure I'm not just hungry, before I yell at you. 

Do your wife or husband a favor: Eat your favorite sandwich, and then come back and yell at her/him all you want, if you still feel like it.

• 4. I promise not to give in to you for the sole purpose of using my compliance against you later. 

Some people call this passive aggressive behavior, but this is a very specific maneuver that you can understand and avoid: Being the good person, even though you don’t want to, is not always good. 

Being so compliant and docile that a halo pops out of your hair and lofts itself over you, bathing you in its golden light, is sometimes a trick, and you really intend to strangle your spouse with that halo, somewhere down the road. Being so good that next time there’s an argument, you can point back to this moment as an example of how your goodness practically rent the sky in half -- that’s not goodness. Don’t do that. It’s not going to help, in the long run. If you don’t want to do something, fight not to do it. If you want to do something, fight to do it. Be honest, and don’t posture.

• 5. I promise to defend you to others, even if you are wrong. 

Your spouse is going to encounter plenty of haters and critics. Don’t join them. Ever. In the privacy of your pillow, or your sofa, or your minivan, you can have conversations that need to be had, if there’s really something that needs to be addressed. But you don’t need to agree with someone who’s calling him a boor, or her an idiot. There is nothing uglier than watching a husband degrade his wife or a wife demean her husband in front of other people. It doesn’t make you smart or funny. It’s just a low behavior. Your spouse’s criticism hurts plenty, even if it’s private and kind. If it’s public and rude, it’s almost unbearable.

• 6. I promise to try to put you before the children. 

This is tricky, because your biological imperative will be to put the children first. Your physiology will be directing you to eat the face off your spouse if he or she threatens the children’s progress and happiness in any way. This is why it’s possible to make this promise to each other: to really try to prioritize each other sometimes, even though the children are absorbing so much of your life. 

Making this promise might actually result in some time spent together as a couple, some choices made for the benefit of Dad’s or Mom’s agenda and goals instead of the kids’ activities all the time, and some needed balance.

• 7. I promise to do the stuff neither of us wants to do, if you really don't want to do it more than I don't. 

My husband hates to do the dishes. He really hates it and thinks it is disgusting. I do not like to look at spreadsheets or think about money. At all. It gives me panting fits. Now, I don’t especially want to do the dishes either. Nobody wants to do the dishes. But I’m okay doing the dishes, yes every single time, yes even if I also cooked the dinner. I don’t really care that much, and I’m not going to stand on principle to try and chase some goal of “fairness” and make him do the dishes half the time. 

If fairness were what we were after, then I would have to pay attention to the checking account, and have a budget, and worry about mortgages. And I don’t. That’s not fair either. But we don’t care because we’ve made this promise:

• 8. I promise not to keep score. 

You can’t win marriage. There are no points. Any reckoning or score-keeping on your part is only going to result in told-you-so trumpeting or sad dissatisfaction. Not keeping score means you don’t have to pay back the good stuff, and you don’t get to punish the failures. It also means you can give freely, and that you have a soft place to fall when you fail yourself. 

There are consequences for every action -- good and bad. That is true. But “forgive and forget” works two ways -- you forget the good stuff you did and the bad stuff he/she did. In return you can expect your bad stuff to be forgotten, and your spouse to give you good stuff without measure.

• 9. I promise to not care if you get fat, or skinny, or old. 

I’m talking about getting fat, people. Butt, huge. Arms, wiggly. I’m also talking about hot bodies wasting away to nothing. Boobs, gone. Butt, gone. Can we talk about hair falling out? Not just boy hair, but girl hair too. Weird moles developing. Facial hair getting thicker or thinner. Googly eyes. 

The truth is you don’t really care about these things. Your favorite person is your favorite person until the end of time, even if their head falls off or they grow a third leg. Even if a dragon comes and eats off the lower half of their body or they turn purple or get warts. You know what matters is on the inside, and you can articulate it. 

If you want to utter the most romantic words a woman will ever hear, say “I will love you forever, babe, even if you get wicked fat.” Trust me. Your skinny fiance will love you for this.

• 10. I promise to put your happiness before mine. 

Really it all boils down to this, doesn’t it? You promise to subvert your needs, your wants, your goals and priorities, to those of your spouse. And he or she does the same for you. If you’re both working for the other’s happiness, earnestly and sincerely, then you’re both going to be ridiculously happy.

Here’s the key though: It’s not enough to sublimate yourself and be a virtuous martyr for his/her dreams to come true. You also have to allow your spouse to do the same for you. You have to be able to say “Okay!” when he says “Go!” To say “Thanks!” when she says “I don’t mind!” And trust that when it’s your turn to reverse roles, you’ll do the very same. Because in the end, it’s not even selflessness. It’s working for the common good. And if you can’t say you’ll do that, then “until we are parted by death” is just going to be a long, dull, sad life sentence.

CONCLUSION  

In my opinion, if you can't wholeheartedly vow these things, you shouldn't be getting married. Yep, it's a little tougher to promise "in fatness and in emaciation, even if my mother hates you" than it is to promise "in joy and in sorrow, forsaking all others." But which is really braver, and what promise more meaningful?

Post written by Lydia Netzer

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